I read a really awesome blog post from the website My Sex Professor. The site was founded in 2007 by Dr. Debbie Herbenick, a research scientist at Indiana University. With whom I’ve been incredibly lucky to have taken tons of her seminars, speak with her in regards to becoming a sexologist and learn immense amounts of good information from. She’s pretty awesome.
My Sex Professor is an awesome site filled with sexual health information, tips and advice on sex and relationships. They do a little bit of everything from product reviews to commentary on sexual health or sex in the news. If you haven’t already taken a look, pop over after you’ve fully browsed my blog, and of course followed me (I’ve got a box of goodies just vibrating to get in someones pants…I mean hands!)
On to the Taboo Topic for today!!!
The blog post that I read was about judging consensual acts of sex, specifically in regards to fetishes and kink. You can check it out HERE.
We often think, oh well to each his own. Right? But do we really believe that? I think we try to believe that but we still judge. Its hard not to when what someone else enjoys is completely different than what you enjoy and may be way off your comfort scale.
There is ALWAYS going to be some fetish or form of Kink that offends someone or turns someone off.
I’m all for exploring your sexuality, figuring out what arouses you, inspires you or enhances your relationship with your partner. If it works for you, then it works for you! As long as its consensual. There’s obviously a line that has to be drawn, when someone says no then its not ok.
There are definitely sexual acts or practices that I’m not into, things that I would never try because they don’t interest me or they gross me out. BUT I can’t say that others shouldn’t do them, especially if they like them. If you like something I’d never do…More power to you! And the same applies in reverse. If there’s things that I enjoy that others would never do…that I have to respect.
When I’m hosting a party for a group of girls, I do encourage them to explore their fantasies and communicate with their partners. You may have a fantasy you’ve never explored and your partner may be up for trying it out!
As long as consent is involved, there’s no place for judgement.