In the general theme of STDs Week. Telling your partner you can be scary and hard and something many want to avoid because its embarrassing or awkward. But you have to tell your partner if you do have one.
If you’ve learned you have an STD, do your research so you understand what exactly the STD is, what its symptoms are, how its spread and what the treatment is. Some STD’s are treatable…others are not. Knowing all the details allows you to be prepared when telling your partner.
If your relationship is new and you’ve yet to have sex with your partner, letting them make an informed decision about that next step in your relationship is important. Approach them BEFORE you have sex if you can.
Be honest. Let your conversation be natural and be prepared for a variety of reactions. Don’t be scared because if the roles were reversed you would want to know too.
Listen to your partners concerns. If you’ve done your research, you can help them understand all the options.
If you have already had sex with your partner and have learned you have an STD, stop immediately. Your partner should get tested immediately but also in a few months time as it can take months for some STDs to show up. Talk to a doctor about what options you have and how you can protect yourself in the future.
It really is important, not only for your relationship, but for you too tell your partner if you have an STD. In 35 states it is a crime to not inform your partner if you have HIV or other STDs. Below is a list of those states:
- New Jersey
- North Carolina
- North Dakota
- Rhode Island
- South Carolina
- South Dakota
In some of these states it is a felony to fail to inform a sexual partner of an STD. To view details on the laws in each state click HERE
Its important to know the laws in your state and to have open and honest conversations with your partner. If your not sure get tested together, that way you’re approaching it as a team rather than alone.