I have been in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR) for almost a year. Come January it will be a year. And I can tell you it is not easy. In fact its probably one of the hardest things to experience, but in the end its worth it. Communication is challenging when you’re in different time zones, on different schedules and ultimately trying to live your lives separately while still staying apart. And there are tips galore out there on how to keep things alive in a LDR. Even I give you my own Tips to surviving a LDR. But how can you keep the romance (and your sex life) alive from hundreds or even thousands of miles away!? If anyone tells you its easy…they’re lying.
If you take one thing away from this post, take this:
No couple is the same. What works for others might not work for you.
Coming off that…there is no right or wrong way to have a relationship long distance. There’s things that are important for maintaining a good healthy relationship (like communication and visits when you can) But as far as a sexual relationship thats really up to you and your partner.
I personally am at odds with Skype sex and phone sex. I feel silly and funny doing it, not sexy and arousing at all. But others think its great and have a blast doing it. You have to talk to your partner to decide what works best for you. Maybe its the anticipation of seeing each other (even if it means its months apart) or maybe its taking care of business alone until you can be together again.
Here’s some things to try:
- Phone sex!
- Skype Sex!
- Send private videos and photos (try Snapchat if you don’t want them stored on your phone)
- Send sexy text messages
- Take care of business on your own!
- Try to schedule a rendevous with your partner as often as you can! (meet in the middle if its easier!)
The only real advice I can give is to try a few different things out, talk about it with your partner and see what works best for you. Because what works for you might not work for someone else!
What tips do you have for keeping your sex life healthy when you’re in a long distance relationship?