Foreplay Fridays (Long Distance Style!)

I have been in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR) for almost a year. Come January it will be a year. And I can tell you it is not easy. In fact its probably one of the hardest things to experience, but in the end its worth it. Communication is challenging when you’re in different time zones, on different schedules and ultimately trying to live your lives separately while still staying apart. And there are tips galore out there on how to keep things alive in a LDR. Even I give you my own Tips to surviving a LDR. But how can you keep the romance (and your sex life) alive from hundreds or even thousands of miles away!? If anyone tells you its easy…they’re lying.

If you take one thing away from this post, take this:

No couple is the same. What works for others might not work for you. 

Coming off that…there is no right or wrong way to have a relationship long distance. There’s things that are important for maintaining a good healthy relationship (like communication and visits when you can) But as far as a sexual relationship thats really up to you and your partner.

I personally am at odds with Skype sex and phone sex. I feel silly and funny doing it, not sexy and arousing at all. But others think its great and have a blast doing it. You have to talk to your partner to decide what works best for you. Maybe its the anticipation of seeing each other (even if it means its months apart) or maybe its taking care of business alone until you can be together again.

Here’s some things to try:

  • Phone sex!
  • Skype Sex!
  • Send private videos and photos (try Snapchat if you don’t want them stored on your phone)
  • Send sexy text messages
  • Take care of business on your own!
  • Try to schedule a rendevous with your partner as often as you can! (meet in the middle if its easier!)

The only real advice I can give is to try a few different things out, talk about it with your partner and see what works best for you. Because what works for you might not work for someone else!

What tips do you have for keeping your sex life healthy when you’re in a long distance relationship?

Foreplay Friday!

The weather in Chicago is getting cooler and soon enough the leaves will start to change. The seasons are by far the best the about the midwest, they’re so distinct from each other (if they cooperate). So following along with my Fall Date ideas as a Fore Play Friday post, I’m going to suggest you take a drive or take a Fall Color tour!

Obviously this date idea is for those who live in states who truly have seasons like we do here in Chicago, but it doesn’t mean you can’t take your own scenic drive! The US Department of Transportation compiled a list of scenic drives across the US for your viewing pleasure!

Spend an afternoon with your partner, pack a picnic, some great tunes and check out some of the scenic views and the changing colors of the season! Bring your camera and do some hiking, reconnecting and relaxing.  While you’re driving through check out some local restaurants and shops!

Spoon River Valley Scenic Drive. Click photo for link to site

Spoon River Valley Scenic Drive. Click photo for link to site

Foreplay Friday!

How often do you go out on a real date with your partner? Once a week? Multiple times? When you think about what dating is and what it does for a relationship it varies depending on what stage you are in your relationship.

When you first start dating someone new its all about getting to know each other. Seeing if you actually like them; mentally, physically, emotionally. If you’re compatible with each other and if you have a romantic chemistry. Remember that time when a guy actually asked me at the end of our date if there was a Spark ?!? Absolutely the most awkward thing ever.

autumn-in-moscow-1433556-2-mAs time goes on and you get into a routine of seeing each other regularly, commit to each other dating often times gets put on the back burner. But a lot of times when you do go on a date it means that sex is most likely going to happen (unless you drink a whole bottle of wine and pass out before you even get home! Been there done that!) at the end. Or its a really special occasion. I know for me, when I do get the opportunity to go on a date with my boyfriend I take a little extra time to jazz myself up!  I shave my legs, wear makeup and try to dress cute! Because dates to me are something special that don’t happen often, especially now that we’re 6000 miles apart.

Dates don’t have to be ultra romantic where you go to a fancy dinner they can be fun too (and still romantic!) So in honor of dating and the upcoming fall season and since dating your partner is the perfect way to spice up your relationship. I’ll be featuring some fun and romantic fall date ideas!

So here I am toting about how dates jazz up your love life. and I’m going to go right ahead and suggest a group date. Well it could be either a date date or a group date or just something fun to do with your friends.

Go to a corn maze!


Search in your area for a corn maze during the fall season. They’re actually pretty fun. Here in Illinois there is a really big one that has challenges that you need to complete for a cheesey certificate at the end. I went last year with some friends and my friends have made it an annual get together each year. But it really is a great idea for a date.

Here are my suggestions for corn maze success:

  • Find one with a challenge, not only are they fun but it allows you to work together. And a little competition reeds-1436094-1-mnever hurt anyone (if you’re going with other couples/friends)
  • Go at night. Its a little spooky but bundle up and bring flashlights. Because when you’re freaked out you can cling to each other.
  • Make sure the place has food/drink offerings. The one I went to had an orchard so they had hot apple cider (which I couldn’t have of course) and snacks to eat before and after we completed the maze.
  • If its just the two of you and you’ve got to drive a ways to get to the maze, make a weekend out of it! Find a cute little bed and breakfast near by and have a romantic little fall getaway!