Foreplay Fridays: August Subscription Box Review

Well I’m doing a combo Foreplay Friday post! (didn’t think I forgot about that Spicy Subscription box did you!?) Reason why I’ll be combining today and doing my FF post as a subscription box review is because one of the items I got in my box is totally a perfect FF item!

I opted for the Deluxe Spicy Subscription box because for only a few additional dollars you get a few more big items! Total score!

When I got home and saw my package I couldn’t believe it! Talk about a HUGE subscription box! I was suprised and couldn’t wait to see what was in such a large package!

Not only did I get a nice sized toy, I also received a romantic Scavanger Hunt, some samples of Lube and an flavored oral gel!

Pink and Gun Oil are really popular lubricants. I personally haven’t tried them out, but I’m eager to test them out!

Passion Fruit! And specifically designed for the boys.

Retailed at 24.99 and is a pretty good size. Not too big, not too small!

So The Pleasure Hunt was what made my package so big! Filled with those little balls you get from Gumball machines each ball contains a few different instructions on the little slips. Hide them around your bedroom or your house and when you’re partner finds them you can perform the acts in the ball! Super cute idea! And makes for a fun evening or a lazy Sunday!

The Dreaded Dry Spell doesn’t have to be all that bad….

I’m sure we’ve all been there. Those long dry spells, where there’s really nothing happening in the bedroom. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, they happen. (Not for everyone, or every relationship, but most people have experienced it in one way or another)  But having a dry spell doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. And it doesn’t mean that your relationship is lacking either.

Even though sex is a great stress reliever, can help you to relax, and make you feel great over all. Sometimes a little break can help you to invigorate the passion you have with your partner. Or for those of us in long distance relationships, it can be weeks or months between visits, so a drought is likely.

So how do you make the best of a period of no sex? So that when you are back into your normal sex routine its the best?

Spend sometime reflecting on why you’re in a dry spell! Are you single, but don’t want to just sleep with anyone? In a relationship and just have had so much going on sex is the last thing on your mind? In a long distance relationshp and its going to be a bit before you see your partner? Maybe its health reasons? or maybe its just personal. What ever the reason is, be sure to understand it! If you are unhappy with being in a dry spell then make a change so that you can get right out of there!

So if you’re single and maybe your sex life is not so happening, get yourself out there! Try online dating, join some groups (Meetup.com is a great place to find some new activities), go out with friends in groups of guys and girls. The more you put yourself out there the more opportunities you have to meet someone! Don’t be on the hunt, but if you open yourself up to the different possibilities, your door to some great sex might just open up!

If you’re in a relationship and things are put on the back burner. If you’re purposely avoiding sex, it might be a time to take a look at why you are. If you’re both just busy and haven’t had the time, and you’re both ok with it, take that time to better yourself! (this actually goes for anyone, in any situation) Whether it be finding some time to get into shape, eating healthy or even getting a hair cut or giving yourself a makeover. Do something that makes you feel great about yourself! Your confidence may inspire some action in the bedroom!  If you’re not happy with your current sex situation, schedule it in. Make time for it!

If you’re in a LDR, this is the time to spend with some friends, better yourself and do somethings you enjoy on your own. Work on your relationship without the sex (it’ll be better if you do!) and when you’re together, the sex will be spot on.

 

So how do you deal with a dry spell?

 

Getting what you want from your partner…in bed!

I skipped posting Taboo Tuesdays yesterday because well I said ehhhh and I was trying to wrap my brain around observing not only a family member but also random people, in two days, when my family lives 400 miles away, plus I live alone (unless you count my dogs, but an interaction with them consists of: Here’s my toy, play with me. Scratch my ears, lick feet, lick everything, sleep on your legs till you sweat)  and I work in an office where we all sit huddled at our desks for most of the day….yeah. not. going. to. happen. Ahhhh the beautiful world of I got a degree in theater so I’m really good at pretending and going to a liberal arts school some how managed to develop my really awesome bullshitting skills.

Now I just need to make up a really good, academic sounding, observation of some made up people…and act like I know what I’m talking about. By midnight…tonight…preferably while I’m at work…between working on two giant projects that I also can’t do anything on because my boss hasn’t told me what he wants yet…

See why I skipped yesterday? Its been chaos! But I figured if I’m going to put off doing this assignment…might as well do something productive with my time (besides you know…being swamped with my project at work).

If I could get whatever I wanted today…it would be to go take a nap, have someone else write my assignment and do my work as well as spending the evening lounging in bed…not alone. But you know…the only thing I can get out of that list is the nap part and even thats a stretch.  As its now nearing 4pm and I’ve yet to even look at my assignment.

But how can you get what you want…specifically in the bedroom? 

Communicating our desires in the bedroom can be increadibly challenging for some. Many fear that their desires will be rejected or they will be judged based on what they want. But hey…you won’t ever get what you want unless you try right??

If you’re fearful of bringing up some kinky things you have wanted to try, or that you have already enjoyed but aren’t sure how to approach it…I find that turning it into a game where both individuals can talk about their desires and fantasies!

There are plenty of little games, notebooks, cards that have you talk about your desires in a fun, lighthearted way that helps you get past that fear of voicing your desires! I used to have a small little book that had a ton of little questions that you and your partner would fill out together with silly little questions like “How do you like it when you’re partner does this” or “Do you pee in the shower” kinda stuff. I filled it out with my ex and I thought it was fun and silly (he on the other hand thought it was stupid) But if you turn it into a fun little foreplay session…they may just be up for it!

Here’s an example of a book! Here!

Or try a little card game like this one here

 

As I’ve suggested a million times before, if you’re not ready to speak up verbally, try visually! Try a position book with pictures, or a book that has picures that describes how you want your partner to please you. Get one that does the same for them and highlight and swap!

 

 

 

 

 

Books like these are a great option! Pictures are a great way to communicate!

 

 

 

 

Watch porn together. Its a great way to visually see some positions, new techniques or encorporate some role-play into your relationship. Just remember to be realistic, don’t compare yourself to the abilities/skills of the actors and remember a lot of it can be exaggerated. Have open communication before, especially if you know there are things you are not into. And be prepared to offer up compromises and alternatives! Find a middle ground that you both can agree on and that you’re both comfortable with!

Do you have some other fun ways to help get what you want in the bedroom?? Share them with me!